I know that some women are enamored with the concept that you must misbehave to experience the fullness of life. That to buck the system is the only way to truly experience yourself and what life has to offer. That women who “fall in line” are otherwise little more than sheep and kool-aid drinkers.
My argument this is based on the root concept that you can only misbehave if you accept the society and conditions around you, and then behave differently. Why misbehave? Simply shrug off the society you feel oppresses your desires and behave as you feel is best for you and your lifestyle? Then it’s not misbehaving, it’s just “paving your own way.”
I don’t want a woman to misbehave. What I want her to do is to choose how she wants to live her life, and then live it. Misbehaving is entirely about rebellion and has little to do with the simpler concept of ignoring social pressures and merely just “doing it your own way.”
Why go out of your way to join a culture just to buck it but to enjoy the feelings of rebellion? I don’t agree with rebellion for rebellion’s sake. As well to promote hope and change with no real direction for that hope and change. Rebellion for rebellion’s sake will feel good in the short term but prove empty in the long term.
Rebellion for a reason, such as when our Founding Father’s threw off the chains of tyranny and started a war to free America from King George, is a good thing, but it was not rebellion for rebellion’s sake. It was a choice to remove the current rule and replace it with their own over themselves and themselves alone.
Why think that you must “misbehave” in order to experience life? It’s either A) because you like the feeling of being “bad,” or B) you honestly don’t want to leave the society you’re in, you just want to buck it a little. Women who feel the need to misbehave might have their brains wrapped so tightly around the culture in which they exist that the idea of striking out on their own either frightens them, or they honestly have little clue how to live by their own rules.
It’s time to learn.
We live in a free country where we are free to live by our own rules, barring the basic things like don’t murder other people, etc. If you don’t like that one religion and morality or another ethical system frowns upon your behavior, there’s a very simple solution: Don’t listen! No one’s opinion of you obligates either response or obedience. The only person you are to obey is the person to whom you choose to! If you choose to obey a husband or your parents or your God is entirely up to you!
Now, disobeying those with whom you’re connected with will have consequences, but as a human, it’s reality that disobeying anyone who is currently in authority over you will have consequences, regardless of gender. How you choose to select your authority figures will determine what consequences you face. If you don’t want to have a boss, become your own! If you would rather your husband obey you, marry a man ready for you to wear the pants! Don’t want to believe in God? Don’t!
No one has any authority to determine for you what to believe or how to believe it. Even if your parents or guardians raised you to believe A, B and C, it will always and ever be up to you to perpetuate that belief system in your own life. So what will you choose? The way you were told to think, or the way you want to think?
I think it’s high time you took a step back from your life and style and if you’re so damn displeased with it, start writing your own rules. Start dictating how you’re going to behave and screw gender or roles or expectations. Be whom you want to be. Whatever you decide, as an intelligent human, you will reap the rewards and pay the costs associated with those decisions, but it’s time to stop blaming your standing culture or society and start carving your own!