PRESTO! The monkey just caught himself. Why? BECAUSE HE WON’T LET GO!
Do you know why you are so absolutely miserable in your life? You won’t let go of that which chains you to your place of misery, thinking the benefit is worth the enslavement. Lemme tell you a secret you may already have guessed — it ain’t worth it.
While sometimes you don’t always have a choice because you need to pay bills and put food on the table, it doesn’t mean prolonged exposure is an acceptable lifestyle. If you’re miserable, let go! Move on! Release that which binds you and find peace! Settle your accounts, wash your hands and be done.
Sometimes you won’t even realize the source of your misery. If you were to pause your life and look around, ask yourself why you might be so unhappy. Is it your children? Spouse? And please, don’t mistake projection as a source. What I mean by that is when you have a miserable time at work, you come home and put it on all your husband or your wife. Don’t make that mistake. One sure way to tell is if you had these problems, regardless of other factors, such as: work, troublesome family, friends who are bad influences, and so on and so forth.
Take a hard stock of every element of your life — separate them and then compare them with each other. If one group alone makes you happy, but combining them makes you miserable, either get rid of one of them or just don’t combine the two. Like two of your friends who get rowdy when they get together with you and thus cause you to act like a fool, but if you have them one at a time to yourself, they’re calmer and less likely to get an STD.
Life is often simpler and less painful than we think. Do you know who the primary cause of almost all of your pain and suffering?
Whether intentionally or not, you will cause 90%< of your own suffering, either because of your lifestyle of drama and heartache, or because there is an internal flaw within your soul that keeps you stuck in bad relationships or addictions, or because you’re just honestly that stupid and keep choosing that same kind of douche from the same kind of bar in the same kind of area of town and you keep wondering: Why can’t I find a good guy?
If you want to end the constant pain in your life, ask yourself this: What is the dominant denominator with my pain and suffering? I would bet lots of money that it’s you, yourself, as that denominator. You are the most common thing in your life, and if you want to end your misery, change yourself.
How do you change yourself? You have to change what’s inside.
Now, in my ducky experience, I have only been able to change a little bit here and there. Namely for the same reason I have yet to find a computer that knew how to fix itself — fixing others and other things is easy, but ourselves? Not so much.
Consider visiting a counselor who can dig to the root of your emotional hole that you keep trying to fill with men, women, relationships, alcohol, drugs, porn, drama, etc. Talk with people who care about you AND are willing to tell you the truth. Stop thinking “fun” is the ultimate form of happiness. There is peace out there that surpasses all understanding and in which dwarfs fun. Imagine freedom from your insecurities and emotional scars! There is no tradable commodity which can replace such fulfillment.
If you feel empty inside, stop trying to fill it with empty things and find something of merit and meat.
I can only tell you that in my personal life, God has been that which has filled me, and let me tell you, it ain’t religion. It’s not a series of rules or laws by which I fill that emptiness I, myself, have deep inside. It’s a living relationship with the Living Creator of the Universe. That’s what He wants! He wants to spend every day with us, not in mournful wailing and prude lifestyle, but in one of embracing every area of life through the filter of his eyes, his heart and his love!
Be dangerous, be exciting, but be at peace. Trust me when I say you CAN have both, but surrender must come first. Surrender those hurts, that emptiness, that pain. He will fill it. You can take that to the bank.